• Dathan Belanger

How do you know if you are a true friend?

Updated: Dec 4, 2020



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Are you a true friend? Are you simply under the guise of one?


Have you ever heard the saying? “You find out who your friends are when you are in your darkest hour,” I tell you from experience this is true. It will surprise you to know that your true friend list is smaller than you can ever possibly imagine. You may have over 500+ Facebook friends but when the stuff hits the fan your list will shrink to only a hand full.


There are many people we can refer to as friends. There are common actions associated with friendship such as time spent, communication, shared experience, trust, availability.


Yes, they are friends if you experience this. I personally believe that people are inherently good and generally do not intentionally step on others, especially when it is in their best interest not to.


Said Anne Frank. “Despite everything, I believe that people are really good at heart.


Your friends may mean well but may not step up or defend you when help is needed. This is because there is a major element or piece missing.


So what is this element? I believe this is a straight answer. Love is the missing element. A true friend is someone that loves you. I can tell you that friendships will crumble but a true friendship lasts forever. Why is this?


Because love is eternal. It is the most powerful force in existence. Love is like the truth. The truth is etched in time and can never be erased. It echoes an eternity.


If you love someone so that you are willing to lay down your life for them. Then you can call yourself a true friend.


Jesus did this for us. He gave his life for us so that we may be saved. This is an incredible example to live up to. That is why your list of true friends is small.


There is a friend that we all have. That friend is God.


Abraham and Moses were called friends of God (2 Chron 20:7, Exod 33:11, Isa 41:8, James 2:23) They conversed with the creator of everything.


Jesus told his disciples that all those that serve him are his friends. (John 15:14-14) Jesus did not care if they were tax collectors or sinners.


You will have few true friends in your life, but remember God is always on your list. He loves you and he will defend you.


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